Not the kind of hard thing that anyone applauds you for.Not the kind that comes with recognition or a visible reward. But the quiet kind.The internal kind.The kind that starts in your mind long before it ever shows up in your actions. We recently went on holiday, and tucked underneath all the excitement, the packing,…
Raising children with strength, compassion, and a deep sense of identity There is a quiet weight many of us carry as parents. Not the visible kind. Not the kind people see in the school runs, the packed evenings, or the constant balancing of work and home. But the internal knowing. That no matter how much…
I watched a video on Instagram that really captured my heart. A mother had driven over four hours just to see her son who was working as a waiter in a restaurant. She didn’t announce it. She didn’t make a scene. She just walked in and sat down at one of his tables. When he…
There is a particular kind of guilt that can creep in quietly when you are a working parent. It does not always announce itself loudly. Sometimes it meets you at the front door when you walk into the house at 8 pm. Sometimes it sits in the silence after a long day of meetings, deadlines,…
There are moments in parenting when you realise just how powerful your words are. Not the big speeches or the lectures we carefully prepare in our minds, but the everyday words. The ones spoken in passing. The ones said when we are tired, frustrated, or simply trying to get through the day. Our children carry…
There is something quietly profound about watching your child grow into themselves. My daughter is now fifteen, and in this season I have found myself standing in a space I did not quite anticipate. For years, parenting felt like directing. Teaching. Correcting. Guiding every step. Now it feels different. It feels like listening. Watching her…
I have come to understand kindness not as a soft value, but as a deliberate one. Something we plant early in our children, knowing full well we may never witness the harvest ourselves. Kindness is not passive. It requires awareness, courage, and often a willingness to stand alone for a moment. When we teach our…
There are days when those words feel heavier than they look. I see you. Not as something said lightly, but as something rooted in attention, in presence, in the kind of love that notices even when life refuses to slow down. The reality of juggling it all I am raising two daughters, aged 11 and…
So this week is Mental Health Awareness Week and the theme is nature. Personally, I am not big on the outdoors, I prefer to stay home, under the covers and that really makes me happy. However, the few times (especially during lockdown) that I managed to get out of the house and embrace the beautiful…
As a parent, nurturing our children to be the best version of themselves is something I believe we should strive for. But when you have more than one child, you very quickly find that the personalities of our children are often different. For me, both my girls couldn’t be more opposite. And although I am…
Recently I noticed I had become very irritable. I didn’t feel like talking to anyone or have the motivation to complete pending tasks, but one thing I couldn’t take time off from was being a parent. I had to continue to push through even when I felt tired with pressure from work and other commitments,…
Growing up, I remember having conversations with my peers where we all had something in common; all our parents came top of their class in school. Back then, we never really thought to question this until much later when it became apparent. If they all came top of their class, who came bottom? This is…
I am sure that we can all agree that effective communication is a key element of any relationship; it can either foster or break the relationship. This is particularly true in the way that we communicate with our children where it can create either a safe and secure environment for them to build trust and…
Saying the words, “I am sorry” to anyone is often an acknowledgement that we have done something wrong which isn’t always easy because it requires you to be vulnerable admitting that you were wrong; how much more, to a child. I remember growing up, the expectation was always on the child to apologise to the…
This week, I want to explore the importance of partnership parenting and the need to unlearn gender-stereotyped parenting in the home. When I had my first daughter, my parents came over to stay with us from Nigeria to fulfil the “Omugwo” requirement which is an Igbo term in Nigeria for the custom of postpartum care….
A few weeks ago, my younger daughter Toni, came home and very casually told us about an incident that occurred in school with a girl she occasionally played with. She explained that the girl had told her she didn’t want to be friends with her anymore because she was black and was a Christian. As…
This post is an appreciation to teachers and parents who are doing the most in this lockdown to keep children regulated in such incredibly difficult and unprecedented times. At the start of 2020, who would’ve thought that we would be right in the midst of a global pandemic, trying to figure out how to get…
Parenting is no doubt one of the best gifts, but it can also present with its own challenges especially when it comes to setting boundaries and laying down the rules at home. Children need boundaries because it keeps them safe and helps them harness key values and ethics that they can take into adulthood. In…
A happy new year and welcome to 2021! What a year we just had, if you are reading this, I am thankful that you made it as no one anticipated the whirlwind that we survived in the form of COVID-19. I remember January 2020, my husband and I had made all these plans but with…