Recently I noticed I had become very irritable. I didn’t feel like talking to anyone or have the motivation to complete pending tasks, but one thing I couldn’t take time off from was being a parent. I had to continue to push through even when I felt tired with pressure from work and other commitments,…
Growing up, I remember having conversations with my peers where we all had something in common; all our parents came top of their class in school. Back then, we never really thought to question this until much later when it became apparent. If they all came top of their class, who came bottom? This is…
I am sure that we can all agree that effective communication is a key element of any relationship; it can either foster or break the relationship. This is particularly true in the way that we communicate with our children where it can create either a safe and secure environment for them to build trust and…
Saying the words, “I am sorry” to anyone is often an acknowledgement that we have done something wrong which isn’t always easy because it requires you to be vulnerable admitting that you were wrong; how much more, to a child. I remember growing up, the expectation was always on the child to apologise to the…
This week, I want to explore the importance of partnership parenting and the need to unlearn gender-stereotyped parenting in the home. When I had my first daughter, my parents came over to stay with us from Nigeria to fulfil the “Omugwo” requirement which is an Igbo term in Nigeria for the custom of postpartum care….
A few weeks ago, my younger daughter Toni, came home and very casually told us about an incident that occurred in school with a girl she occasionally played with. She explained that the girl had told her she didn’t want to be friends with her anymore because she was black and was a Christian. As…
This post is an appreciation to teachers and parents who are doing the most in this lockdown to keep children regulated in such incredibly difficult and unprecedented times. At the start of 2020, who would’ve thought that we would be right in the midst of a global pandemic, trying to figure out how to get…
Parenting is no doubt one of the best gifts, but it can also present with its own challenges especially when it comes to setting boundaries and laying down the rules at home. Children need boundaries because it keeps them safe and helps them harness key values and ethics that they can take into adulthood. In…
A happy new year and welcome to 2021! What a year we just had, if you are reading this, I am thankful that you made it as no one anticipated the whirlwind that we survived in the form of COVID-19. I remember January 2020, my husband and I had made all these plans but with…